We advise you to pass this test even for those people who do not doubt that they are giving the family maximum time and energy and try to see their family as often as possible. Do not think that the answer is elementary, and if you spend every free minute at home, this already means that the family occupies a dominant position for you. It's not that simple. The purpose of this test is to determine what you are capable of for the good of your family. After all, an exemplary family man can also be called the person who is not at home for several days, working at the same time in three jobs so that his relatives do not need anything, and giving this literally all their strength. And what are you capable of for the welfare of your family? Don't rack your brains and take the test.

1. The doctor has advised you not to eat fatty, salty, spicy and many other things. Which of the following meal options is the most convenient for you? The options are:
you will cook for yourself separately - 1;
do not consider it necessary to eat separately, but ask your family to take into account the specifics of your diet when they cook - 2;
when you see the whole family eating a baked leg of lamb stuffed with garlic, and at this time there is a plate of semolina in front of you, the feeling of envy completely discourages your appetite. Better let your family be patient and have dinner with porridge with you - 3.

2. You smoke and all other family members cannot stand the smell of tobacco. You:
endure and refrain from smoking in the house, whatever the cost to you - 2;
do not smoke in the apartment, running out into the street for this, even if there is at least a blizzard - 1;
you demand from your relatives that they treat your weaknesses with understanding - you do not have so many of them, so they can tolerate - 3.

3. How much money from your salary do you save for personal expenses? The options are:
1/2 salary - 3;
1/4 of the salary - 2;
you give all your salary, leaving almost nothing for yourself - 1.

4. How do you usually spend your vacation? The options are:
you are doing the improvement of the "family nest" - 2;
in order for family members to lead a healthy lifestyle, we are ready to sacrifice a quiet rest in a sanatorium and go with them to conquer Elbrus - 3;
stay at home trying to spend more time with your family - 1.

5. Returning home after a pleasant evening with old friends, you experience the following feelings:
although the evening spent with friends was not bad, but you return home with joy. However, as always - 1;
oppressive thoughts that again you have to return to these four walls, where the boring hum of your other half and the capricious cries of children do not cease - 3;
the senses? Yes, no special feelings. Just Coming Home - 2.

6. For the sake of a purchase that requires a lot of money, are you able to force the whole family to eat only pasta for six months? The options are:
yes, if the purchase is really necessary and its acquisition will greatly facilitate the life of the family - 1;
yes, and even if the acquisition of a new thing is far from a matter of life and death - 3;
no. You can find a way out of any position, and you can perfectly do without this expensive thing. They have done without it until now - 2.

7. Do you agree with the statement: "My home is my castle"? The options are:
yes, exactly the fortress from which it is impossible to find a way out - 3;
Yes. No storms are terrible in the circle of your family - 2;
no. But you are making every effort to make this statement a reality - 1.

8. Your spouse's birthday is coming, and you have small financial problems in your family, as your salary has been delayed at work once again. What will you do? The options are:
the birthday boy will surely understand if on this day we don’t give him anything except our attention and care - 3;
make every effort to get money, even if for this you have to unload cars at night (sew a dress to order) - 1;
run around all your friends and borrow the required amount, not fearing that this will plunge the family into the abyss of the financial crisis, but relying on your ability to deal with debts painlessly for the family budget - 2.

9. Who usually in your family submits an idea to finally make repairs in an apartment? The options are:
you yourself - 1;
one of the relatives - 2;
you decide to do the repairs only after someone who came to visit, having looked around the apartment, meaningfully says: "Yes-ah ..." - 3.

10. Surely you have done repairs in your apartment more than once and you will be able to say how much time it takes:
week - 1;
month - 2;
two months or more - 3.

11. Does it ever happen that you forget about any family holidays that are usually celebrated every year, for example, your wedding anniversary? The options are:
never. Even if memory fails, all memorable dates are recorded in the diary - 1;
occasionally, but it happens - 2;
often - 3.

12. Do you consult with your spouse when deciding to change jobs? The options are:
do not think that loved ones necessarily need to be privy to the details of official duties. You must be able to separate work and family - 3;
be sure to consult and do this whenever you have to make important decisions - 2;
you will consult, because to make a decision for you on your own the problem - 1.

13. All week you dream of spending your weekend like this:
finally break out of the house, go to a friend and at least sit with him for a while in silence and rest - 3;
take a walk around the city with your family - 1;
go to the dacha with your family - 2.

14. Suppose your hobby is collecting rare varieties of cacti. If you live in a two-room apartment, can you set aside an entire room for them, turning it into a greenhouse? The options are:
why not? You can always make room - 3;
why such extremes? Some cacti are not worth such victims at all - 1;
you will turn your bedroom into a greenhouse of cacti so as not to move to another room - 2.

15. The festive menu in your family consists of:
all family members - 2;
only you are 1;
you don't make a holiday menu and cook what you can - 3.

16. Where do you usually celebrate the New Year? The options are:
at home with family - 1;
with family, but visiting - 2;
away, but without a family - 3.

17. Returning home from work, when you saw a tray with ice cream, you could not resist and bought several portions for each family member. And only when they came to the door, they remembered that the child had a sore throat and ice cream was contraindicated for him. What will you do? The options are:
do not waste the good? You will also have to eat a portion of it, and the child will probably understand - 3;
well, you will have to eat it yourself, but it is better to do it so that the child does not know about it - 2;
going into the kitchen, put ice cream in the freezer until better times when the child recovers - 1.

18. A friend invites you to your birthday, but on the condition that you come without your "abnormal half", meaning your spouse, who can ruin any holiday. You:
unconditionally reject the invitation, considering such a review of your (your) spouse a personal insult - 1;
you will be glad that at least someone shares your opinion about your wife (husband), and you will gladly accept the invitation - 3;
in general, we agree with the statement of your comrade, but nevertheless it is your wife (husband) and your conscience does not allow you to leave her (his) at home - 2.

19. Your spouse is ill (sick), and the doctors have recommended inpatient treatment:
the decision of the doctors is undeniable for you, you will do so - 3;
the hospital still won't be able to take care of you the way you do. Take a vacation at your own expense and, leaving the patient at home, you will take care of him yourself - 1;
leave the sick person at home and hire a nurse, not because you don't want to waste your time, but because the help of a qualified professional will be much more useful - 2.

20. Learned that your child stayed at school for the fall. You:
give him a drag and make sure that he does not lift his head from his textbooks all summer long - 1;
until the very autumn, you will spend every free minute trying to help the child understand a difficult subject - 2;
let him learn to correct his mistakes and achieve everything in life on his own - 3.

Outcomes:

From 20 to 38 points:
Family means a lot to you, of course, but by nature you are a person who is not inclined to put up with something that does not suit you even in the slightest degree. In the family, you demand absolutely equal rights for yourself and even a little more, so if you have to sacrifice any of your habits, you perceive it as severe discrimination. Of course, you are ready to give up your passions for the sake of the family, but for this, at least a critical situation should arise when the question arises: either relatives, or your established way of life. Show a little more attention to your loved ones, and in return they will give you a double gift of their care.

From 39 to 50 points:
The question "Where is your family?" confuses you for a while. But the point is not that you do not know what place you give to the family in your life, but that you never thought that the family could occupy any other place than the first. Do not rush to flatter yourself. This fact does not mean that you are actually capable of sacrificing everything when it comes to family. The whole trouble is that in a series of weekdays, when one day is not much different from another, you somewhat forget about the importance of the family in your life, as it becomes something self-evident. But don't be discouraged - you are not hopeless. Everything is not so bad, and in order to remember that family is the most precious thing for you, you do not have to wait for crisis situations that threaten your family well-being. Is the child's birthday? You will make every effort to arrange a holiday for him and, sitting at the festive table and looking at the happy faces of your loved ones, you will understand that the best moments in your life are just those that you spent with your family.

From 51 to 60 points:
I wonder what place do you give your family? Of course, the first, as well as all the others that you can think of. Family for you is not just an abstract concept, but a world separate from the rest, which you are ready to protect by any means. But in your family you are not a reigning despot, ruling the destinies of people who have trusted him, but a keeper of peace and a family hearth. For the sake of the family, you are ready for anything, even if it is not required at all. This is your problem.
Surely, to your surprise, such zeal is not always welcomed by relatives when you make every effort to take an active part, for example, in the life of your child. Do not think that they are embarrassed to ask you for help; rather, they are simply afraid of offending you with rejection when you offer them your company. Try to moderate your ardor and, before taking an unduly active part in the affairs of loved ones, think about whether your intervention is really necessary.

you will cook for yourself separately;
do not consider it necessary to eat separately, but ask your family to take into account the peculiarities of your diet;
when you see the whole family eating a baked leg of lamb stuffed with garlic, and there is a plate of semolina in front of you, the feeling of envy completely discourages your appetite. Better let your family be patient and have dinner with porridge with you.

2. You smoke and all other family members cannot stand the smell of tobacco. You:

endure and refrain from smoking in the house, no matter what it costs you;
do not smoke in the apartment, running out into the street for this, even if there is at least a blizzard;
demand from your family that they treat your weaknesses with understanding - you do not have so many of them, so they can tolerate.

3. How much money from your salary do you leave for personal expenses?

1/2 salary;
1/4 of the salary;
you give all your salary, leaving practically nothing for yourself.

4. How do you usually spend your vacation? The options are:

do the improvement of the "family nest";
in order for family members to lead a healthy lifestyle, they are ready to sacrifice a quiet rest and go with them to conquer Elbrus;
stay at home trying to spend more time with your family.

5. Returning home after a pleasant evening with old friends, you experience the following feelings:

although the evening spent with friends was not bad, but you return home with joy. However, as always;
oppressive thoughts that again you have to return to these four walls, where the boring hum of your other half and the capricious cries of children do not stop;
the senses? Yes, no special feelings. Just go home.

6. Are you capable of making the whole family eat pasta for six months for a purchase that requires a lot of money? The options are:

yes, if the purchase is really necessary and its acquisition will greatly facilitate the life of the family;
yes, and even if the acquisition of a new thing is far from a matter of life and death;
No. You can find a way out of any position, and you can perfectly do without this expensive thing. They have done without it until now.

7. Do you agree with the statement: "My home is my castle"? The options are:

yes, exactly a fortress from which it is impossible to find a way out;
Yes. No storms are terrible in the circle of your family;
no. But you are making every effort to make this statement a reality.

8. Your spouse's birthday is coming, and you have small financial problems in your family, because wages were delayed at work once again. What will you do? The options are:

the birthday man will surely understand if on this day we don’t give him anything except our attention and care;
make every effort to get money, even if for this you have to deal with unloading cars at night (sew a dress to order);
run around all your acquaintances and borrow the required amount, not fearing that this will plunge the family into the abyss of the financial crisis, but relying on your ability to deal with debts painlessly for the family budget.

9. Who usually in your family submits an idea to finally make repairs in an apartment? The options are:

you yourself;
someone from your family;
you decide to do the repairs only after one of the guests, having looked around the apartment, meaningfully says: "Yes-ah-ah"

10. Surely you have done repairs in your apartment more than once and you will be able to say how much time it takes:

week;
month;
two months or more.

11. Does it ever happen that you forget about some holiday dates that are usually celebrated every year, for example, your wedding anniversary? The options are:

never. Even if memory fails, all memorable dates are recorded in the diary;
occasionally, but it happens;
often.

12. Do you consult with your spouse when deciding to change jobs? The options are:

do not think that loved ones necessarily need to be privy to the details of official duties. One must be able to separate work and family;
be sure to consult and do so whenever you have to make important decisions;
you will consult, because it is a problem for you to make a decision on your own.

13. All week you dream of spending your weekend like this:

finally escape from the house, go to a friend's house and at least sit with him for a while in silence and rest;
take a walk around the city with your family;
go to the country house with my family.

14. Suppose your hobby is collecting rare varieties of cacti. If you live in a two-room apartment, can you set aside an entire room for them, turning it into a greenhouse? The options are:

why not? You can always make room.
why such extremes? Some cacti are not worth such victims at all;
you will turn your bedroom into a greenhouse of cacti so as not to move to another room.

15. The festive menu in your family consists of:

all family members;
Only you;
you don't make a holiday menu and cook what you can.

16. Where do you usually celebrate the New Year? The options are:

at home with family;
with family, but visiting;
away, but no family.

17. Returning home from work, when you saw a tray with ice cream, you could not resist and bought several portions for each family member. And only when they came to the door, they remembered that the child had a sore throat and ice cream was contraindicated for him. What will you do? The options are:

do not waste the good? You will have to eat a portion of it, and the child will probably understand;
well, you will have to eat it yourself, but it is better to do it so that the child does not know about it;
go into the kitchen, put ice cream in the freezer until better times, when the child recovers.

It was in the early nineties. 1992 or 1993 - I don’t remember exactly. Then I worked at UPI as a laboratory assistant for chemical analysis. I went to study as a paramedic at the age of 26, and right after school I entered the technical school named after V. Polzunova, then worked at UPI for 5 years. My salary was 90 rubles a month.

And then one summer, when I was on vacation, my girlfriend offered to earn some money. She was at that time married to a Tajik whose name was Said. Since the mid-eighties, he has been selling vegetables and fruits at the Kolkhoz market in Sverdlovsk (then still). A large consignment of onions arrived, and Said decided to expand trade - to try to sell onions in our city. His wife (my friend) remembered that I am now on vacation and could sit outside. They called me at home and offered. I had to sit near one of the shops and sell onions. Said offered 10% of the proceeds. Now this is a very large percentage. I don’t know what percentage it was customary to give to sellers at that time. I agreed to do some bargaining.

At the appointed time, I went to the store. Said was already waiting for me there. The "workplace" was ready. There were scales on two wooden boxes. Sacks of onions lay nearby. There was another empty box - this was my chair. Said gave me a piece of cardboard on which was written the price of onions per kilogram (I don’t remember how many years ago), a calculator and a couple of tips. Here are the tips I remember.

1. I don't want to be rude. You never know who you're talking to. You may have to turn to this person for help.

2. Don't be greedy. Always weigh a little more than you ask, and take as much as you asked to weigh. Then there will be no problems and complaints, and the person will definitely come back to you again. And we won't get poorer with 10 kopecks. Let's take ours anyway.

The first half hour I just sat and read a book. And then the first customer came. After her the second, third ... The day passed unnoticed. Said came twice to see how I was doing. He was leaving happy. Of all the clients, I remembered only one grandmother.

The old woman first walked here and there not far from me. And then she came up and asked:

Honey, can I pick up some husks? And then there is no money for onions, so at least throw the husks in the soup.

Crap! I already felt unwell. I thought about it and decided that we would not "get poorer," and gave the old woman three medium-sized onions. At first, the grandmother refused, they say it was inconvenient. But I insisted on my own. Grandma left, but after half an hour she came back and brought a bunch of old plastic bags. Remember, before the bags were not thrown away, but washed, dried and reused? The old woman brought me such washed ten and seven kopeck bags. She said that "there is nowhere to put the bow. What if someone will be without a bag?" And indeed, there were such people, and they left without buying anything. I took the bags. Don't upset the elderly woman. She's from the bottom of her heart. Honestly, she moved me. And the bags came in handy.

By 6 pm, all the onions were sold out. Said arrived, took the boxes, scales, empty bags and the proceeds. Issued a salary. 110 rubles! In a month at UPI I earned 90, and here 110. We agreed that tomorrow I will arrive there at the same time. Around nine in the evening, a friend called and said that her mother was against me. They "have relatives like that." And where I was sitting, my friend's aunt, my mother's sister, will now trade. But I was offered to trade in another place (even in another city). I agreed. For that kind of money, you can go to another city.

My salary the next time was less - 78 rubles. And still it was a lot. And then it turned out that her friend also had relatives who agreed to travel to another city. They didn’t invite me to trade again. It's a pity, of course, there was good money at that time, but I'm not offended. Understand. Family interests should come first.

And besides money, this experience gave me additional knowledge, which I then used to benefit myself and people.

All kindness and smiles. Don't be beeches.

We advise you to pass this test even for those people who do not doubt that they are giving the family maximum time and energy and try to see their family as often as possible. Do not think that the answer is elementary, and if you spend every free minute at home, this already means that the family occupies a dominant position for you. It's not that simple. The purpose of this test is to determine what you are capable of for the good of your family. After all, an exemplary family man can also be called the person who is not at home for several days, working at the same time in three jobs so that his relatives do not need anything, and giving this literally all their strength. And what are you capable of for the welfare of your family? Don't rack your brains and take the test.

1. The doctor advised you not to eat fatty, salty, spicy and many other things. Which of the following meal options is the most convenient for you? The options are:
   you will cook for yourself separately - 1;
   do not consider it necessary to eat separately, but ask your family to take into account the specifics of your diet when they cook - 2;
   when you see the whole family eating a baked leg of lamb stuffed with garlic, and at this time there is a plate of semolina in front of you, the feeling of envy completely discourages your appetite. Better let your family be patient and have dinner with porridge with you - 3.
2. You smoke and everyone else in your family cannot stand the smell of tobacco. You:
   endure and refrain from smoking in the house, whatever the cost to you - 2;
   do not smoke in the apartment, running out into the street for this, even if there is at least a blizzard - 1;
   you demand from your relatives that they treat your weaknesses with understanding - you do not have so many of them, so they can tolerate - 3.
3. How much money from your salary do you save for personal expenses? The options are:
   1/2 salary - 3;
   1/4 of the salary - 2;
   you give all your salary, leaving almost nothing for yourself - 1.
4. How do you usually spend your vacation? The options are:
   beautification of the "family nest" - 2;
   in order for family members to lead a healthy lifestyle, we are ready to sacrifice a quiet rest in a sanatorium and go with them to conquer Elbrus - 3;
   stay at home trying to spend more time with your family - 1.
5. Returning home after a pleasant evening with old friends, you experience the following feelings:
   although the evening spent with friends was not bad, but you return home with joy. However, as always - 1;
   oppressive thoughts that again you have to return to these four walls, where the boring hum of your other half and the capricious cries of children do not cease - 3;
   the senses? Yes, no special feelings. Just Coming Home - 2.
6. Are you capable of making the whole family eat pasta for six months for a purchase that requires a lot of money? The options are:
   yes, if the purchase is really necessary and its acquisition will greatly facilitate the life of the family - 1;
   yes, and even if the acquisition of a new thing is far from a matter of life and death - 3;
   no. You can find a way out of any position, and you can perfectly do without this expensive thing. They have done without it until now - 2.
7. Do you agree with the statement: "My home is my castle"? The options are:
   yes, exactly the fortress from which it is impossible to find a way out - 3;
   Yes. No storms are terrible in the circle of your family - 2;
   no. But you are making every effort to make this statement a reality - 1.
8. The birthday of your spouse is coming, and you have small financial problems in your family, as your salary was once again delayed at work. What will you do? The options are:
   the birthday boy will surely understand if on this day we don’t give him anything except our attention and care - 3;
   make every effort to get money, even if for this you have to unload cars at night (sew a dress to order) - 1;
   run around all your acquaintances and borrow the required amount, not fearing that this will plunge the family into the abyss of the financial crisis, but relying on your ability to deal with debts painlessly for the family budget - 2.
9. Who usually in your family submits an idea to finally make repairs in an apartment? The options are:
   you yourself - 1;
   one of the relatives - 2;
   you decide to do the repairs only after someone who has come to visit, having looked around the apartment, meaningfully says: "Yes-ah ..." - 3.
10. Surely you have done repairs in your apartment more than once and you can say how much time it takes:
    week - 1;
    month - 2;
    two months or more - 3.
11. Does it ever happen that you forget about any holiday family dates that are customary to celebrate every year, for example, your wedding anniversary? The options are:
    never. Even if memory fails, all memorable dates are recorded in the diary - 1;
    occasionally, but it happens - 2;
    often - 3.
12. Do you consult with your spouse when deciding to change jobs? The options are:
    do not think that loved ones necessarily need to be privy to the details of official duties. You must be able to separate work and family - 3;
    be sure to consult and do this whenever you have to make important decisions - 2;
    you will consult, because to make a decision for you on your own the problem - 1.
13. All week you dream of spending your weekend like this:
    finally break out of the house, go to a friend and at least sit with him for a while in silence and rest - 3;
    take a walk around the city with your family - 1;
    go to the dacha with your family - 2.
14. Let's say your hobby is collecting rare varieties of cacti. If you live in a two-room apartment, can you set aside an entire room for them, turning it into a greenhouse? The options are:
    why not? You can always make room - 3;
    why such extremes? Some cacti are not worth such victims at all - 1;
    you will turn your bedroom into a greenhouse of cacti so as not to move to another room - 2.
15. The festive menu in your family consists of:
    all family members - 2;
    only you are 1;
    you don't make a holiday menu and cook what you can - 3.
16. Where do you usually celebrate New Years? The options are:
    at home with family - 1;
    with family, but visiting - 2;
    away, but without a family - 3.
17. Returning home from work, when you saw a tray with ice cream, you could not resist and bought several portions for each family member. And only when they came to the door, they remembered that the child had a sore throat and ice cream was contraindicated for him. What will you do? The options are:
    do not waste the good? You will also have to eat a portion of it, and the child will probably understand - 3;
    well, you will have to eat it yourself, but it is better to do it so that the child does not know about it - 2;
    going into the kitchen, put ice cream in the freezer until better times when the child recovers - 1.
18. A friend invites you to your birthday, but on the condition that you come without your "abnormal half", meaning your spouse, who can ruin any holiday. You:
    unconditionally reject the invitation, considering such a review of your (your) spouse a personal insult - 1;
    you will be glad that at least someone shares your opinion about your wife (husband), and you will gladly accept the invitation - 3;
    in general, we agree with the statement of your comrade, but nevertheless it is your wife (husband) and your conscience does not allow you to leave her (his) at home - 2.
19. Your spouse is ill (sick), and the doctors have recommended inpatient treatment:
    the decision of the doctors is undeniable for you, you will do so - 3;
    the hospital still won't be able to take care of you the way you do. Take a vacation at your own expense and, leaving the patient at home, you will take care of him yourself - 1;
    leave the sick person at home and hire a nurse, not because you don't want to waste your time, but because the help of a qualified professional will be much more useful - 2.
20. We found out that your child stayed at school for the fall. You:
    give him a drag and make sure that he does not raise his head from his textbooks all summer long - 1;
    until the very autumn, you will spend every free minute trying to help the child understand a difficult subject - 2;
    let him learn to correct his mistakes and achieve everything in life on his own - 3.

Outcomes:

From 20 to 38 points:
Family means a lot to you, of course, but by nature you are a person who is not inclined to put up with something that does not suit you even in the slightest degree. In the family, you demand absolutely equal rights for yourself and even a little more, so if you have to sacrifice any of your habits, you perceive it as severe discrimination. Of course, you are ready to give up your passions for the sake of the family, but for this, at least a critical situation should arise when the question arises: either relatives, or your established way of life. Show a little more attention to your loved ones, and in return they will give you a double gift of their care.

From 39 to 50 points:
The question "Where is your family?" confuses you for a while. But the point is not that you do not know what place you give to the family in your life, but that you never thought that the family could occupy any other place than the first. Do not rush to flatter yourself. This fact does not mean that you are actually capable of sacrificing everything when it comes to family. The whole trouble is that in a series of weekdays, when one day is not much different from another, you somewhat forget about the importance of the family in your life, as it becomes something self-evident. But don't be discouraged - you are not hopeless. Everything is not so bad, and in order to remember that family is the most precious thing for you, you do not have to wait for crisis situations that threaten your family well-being. Is the child's birthday? You will make every effort to arrange a holiday for him and, sitting at the festive table and looking at the happy faces of your loved ones, you will understand that the best moments in your life are just those that you spent with your family.

From 51 to 60 points:
I wonder what place do you give your family? Of course, the first, as well as all the others that you can think of. Family for you is not just an abstract concept, but a world separate from the rest, which you are ready to protect by any means. But in your family you are not a reigning despot, ruling the destinies of people who have trusted him, but a keeper of peace and a family hearth. For the sake of the family, you are ready for anything, even if it is not required at all. This is your problem.

Surely, to your surprise, such zeal is not always welcomed by relatives when you make every effort to take an active part, for example, in the life of your child. Do not think that they are embarrassed to ask you for help; rather, they are simply afraid of offending you with rejection when you offer them your company. Try to moderate your ardor and, before taking an unduly active part in the affairs of loved ones, think about whether your intervention is really necessary.

Hey! Turn around! Your wife (husband) is already leaving you! You work very hard, do not pay attention to your family. And you still ask what to do? On the other hand, it's good that you are working, spinning, doing business and trying to earn an extra penny in our crazy time! Do you want to talk about it? Today our team will work as psychologists.

Our work comes first ... yeah, well, yeah ...

Here's what comes first for you: work or family? This is the most open and popular question of our time: what comes first in life? Everyone knows that since the Stone Age, a man was a breadwinner, and a woman cooked food, looked after the children, that is, kept the hearth. Well, as you know, now it is not only men who want to make a career in our country. For example, we know several women who are at the head of a business or company. You also have such examples. So, for men and women, work often comes to the fore, and the family remains in the second place. It’s worse when they don’t have time to start it at all.

Statistics: 70% of people building a career have no family at all!

What's more important?

There is a generally accepted opinion: a man is engaged in a career, and a woman should keep the family hearth. We have identified several reasons why women go to work today:

• If they have a lot of free time;
• Not enough money (classics of the genre);
• To feel like a member of the team, a full member of society.

And what about a woman who wants to realize herself as much as possible in the service, to show all her talents? What's more important to her: work or family?

It all depends on the man. A woman will be lucky if he is not selfish and does not refuse to support her in all endeavors.

But statistics tell us that such families are rare. Any man sooner or later begins to reproach a woman (or vice versa) that she (he) pays little attention to the family, and more and more to business and work.

If you look at everything from a female position (after all, women often have to choose between family and work), then she chooses herself. If she gets bored of sitting within four walls, then why not work. Only so that it does not harm the family. Let the men now also think about this question. You need to realize yourself, just find time for your loved ones.

Family influences work in different ways!

In general, the influence of the family on work is a complex issue and can be viewed from many angles. If you have a close-knit family, then the husband can support his wife in her endeavors. For example, a woman will be able to calmly rise in the service, knowing that she will be supported, and also a calm atmosphere in the family helps not only women, but also men.

According to statistics, 80% of men believe that the family has a charitable influence on business, work, but women, on the contrary.

As soon as a person begins to build a career, the time for the family becomes less and less. He literally leaves the household unattended. Of course, one of the spouses does not like the situation if the other works for a very long time. This means only one thing: the person himself makes the choice. work or family... And what you decide depends on you. If you gave preference to work, business, then in our time it is very commendable, but the family should not suffer because of this! And for you, what comes first in life?

Exciting work ...

Often, work fascinates so much that a person simply cannot live without it. People work from morning to night to make a lot of money, so sometimes they even forget what they are for. They don't even have time to rest, to see friends. The spouses communicate only at dinner! Well, is this life? Is this what you wanted?

Now try to remember when you and your spouse were young, there was little money, there was not enough for everything, but at the same time you were happy. Why is this happening? This is because before you knew how to rejoice and enjoy what you have.

What happened now?

Now one of you comes home from work, and the other is already asleep. When the first one wakes up, the second one is already at work. But you do not need to allow because of this, so that a loved one becomes a stranger.

What to do?

A question that has tormented everyone since ancient times. But what should we do in our situation? You need to sit down and talk! This is the best option! If you do not want to quit your business, affairs, work, then just discuss what you can do for the family. First, set aside a day when you can devote time to each other. It is important to spend at least two days a week together. You can just watch TV together, go to nature, go to the movies. Communicate more, remember good moments in life, and do not say a word about work!

So, know how to prioritize, talk seriously and negotiate, because the family is your personal "state". And diplomacy is important here in the family too! Work is very important, but family should not be forgotten either. Consider whether it is worth sacrificing work for your family, or vice versa. Isn't it easier to come to an agreement? How do you think?