I believe that within each of us there is a Power that can lovingly show us the path to great health, perfect relationships, a brilliant career and prosperity in any area of ​​life. Louise Hay.

Everything is ingeniously simple, but I would like to be more specific, what is this power that is in each of us and how to find an approach to it? How can it be applied to a specific goal, dream? What power can help to achieve success or former, to live happily?

One of the laws of Tao says that everything changes except for the law of changes. Calmly accepting changes that are inevitable will help self-reliance, inner strength. The more fully you become aware of your strengths, the easier it will be for you to face challenges and achieve your goals.

In psychology, what can help a person in various situations is called personal and social resources, personal potential. What does this include?

About resource work. Acquaintance with different kinds resources.

Much of my approach is based on experience individual work with clients. Working with people who have gone through trauma, who have depleted vitality, are fully involved in destructive relationships in the external or internal world, I set myself the primary task of increasing vitality, stability, and expanding life prospects. This work can be called the strengthening of the ego, or it can be called the restoration of resources. Before going with the client to the past of pain and suffering, I work with the present. Metaphorically, it is like getting the hero on a journey, when he needs to take with him various magical (and not so) objects that can be useful in that unknown, sometimes full of dangers, scary place where the path of psychotherapeutic work leads.

Here is what the founder of Biosynthesis (body-oriented direction of psychotherapy) D. Boadell wrote on this topic:

Working with a client, the therapist tries to heal him of his problems, and the basis of healing is caring. With the right form of care (the right promotion environment), the chances of healing the client's wounds (his maturation process) increases.

The therapist is trained in specific skills and interventions through which he helps the client. However, research shows that crucial It is not the skills, strategies, and tactics of interventions that determine whether the client will get better or not, but the qualities of the therapist-client relationship. In a supportive environment of good therapeutic relationship, the therapeutic space is characterized not only by the resources and qualities of the therapist, but also by the client's latent and activated resources. Until it is possible to activate these resources, I believe that the ability to recover deep disturbances is very limited. Thus, the forecast is undoubtedly associated with the activation of resources.

Resource types:

Personal resources: this includes personal qualities, interests, hobbies, life values.

Often, in connection with the problem states that have arisen, the focus of a person's attention stops on the symptoms that disturb him, and the perception of the environment turns out to be very impoverished. Interests, abilities, past hobbies are forgotten. The client wastes all his life energy fixing himself on the problem. Overcoming the narrowness of perception, traps, cells, the return of the forgotten about oneself is sometimes the most important impulse for returning to life, for increasing the motivation for change, etc.

In psychodramatic practice, we can carry out the following exercises and their modifications: role cluster, work with the value system, "Magic Shop" ... In other words, any exercise aimed at expanding knowledge about oneself and one's inner capabilities. In group practice, these forgotten or lost parts of themselves are played by people; in individual practice, this is a space for the therapist's imagination. I use toys, stones (natural objects), art reproductions.

Bodily resources: areas of well-being, sources of life.

Clients often complain of bodily malaise that accompanies neurosis. In body psychotherapy work, it is important to try to maintain contact, at least barely perceptible, with those areas of the body where the client can feel a sense of vitality, draw energy, or at least recognize their non-problem areas. Often these resource areas of the body can be “awakened” by appropriate interventions and become allies in the therapeutic work: for example, a healthy left leg may begin to take care of the frostbitten right. A spark of warmth in your chest can warm and lighten the blackness in your shoulders. It is important that such psychotherapeutic work activates new areas, making the individual as a whole stronger.

By reaching out to the body, we can draw great amount images, sensations and feelings, which will be the most important resources for the client. In psychodramatic work, these are techniques for working with bodily symptoms, when the protagonist personifies his bodily sensations or symptoms, entering into a dialogue with them.

Also interesting can be the technique "Conversation of body parts", where different parts of the body can interact and sort things out with each other.

It is very good to combine with this type of resources some of the techniques from body-oriented therapy related to the growth of strength and energy in muscles, certain movements or parts of the body.

Resources environment: a reminder of life.

Resources can also be found in the client's environment. A tree at the bottom of the garden. A dog accompanying a client to work. Flower pot in the corner of the room. Nelson Mundella could not have survived 27 years in prison if he had not maximized the resources that were around. Some depressed clients have been saved from suicide by dogs. The black sun at the center of the girl's psychosis did not correspond to the golden sun that rose every day on the horizon.

It will be superfluous to say that psychodrama in this case makes it possible to revive these reminders of life, put words into them and clarify the meanings.

There is a profound meaning in the fact that many treatment and rehabilitation programs and psychological groups are carried out in the bosom of nature, where clients or patients have the opportunity to be in contact with the deepest resources of the environment. In the context of "armchair" work to connect natural resources you can use various natural materials, photographs, including those brought by the client himself.

Relationship resources: opportunities for relationships with other people.

Some clients live too isolated. The therapist can be the single most important relationship resource. The therapeutic relationship resource, a fundamental factor in any therapeutic setting, should be used to activate other communication resources: contacts with neighbors, rebuilding relationships with extended family members, new social contacts in joint activities, sharing experience and compromises. These are all examples of positive opportunities for relationships with people. Jean-Paul Sartre wrote that "other people are hell", but the neurotic needs to discover that, despite the wounds he has received from certain people, there are still opportunities for developing relationships with others that can create healthier and more healing for him. environment.

Thanks to the techniques of family therapy and psychodrama, in the process of work, memories of resource relationships can be recreated and updated.

A resource can be work on modeling situations, creating comfortable types of relationships, even if they are not present in life at the moment.

Cultural resources: art, poetry, music as catalysts for change.

The history of culture is replete with examples of healing from madness through painting, sculpture, dance. Rhythm and music are very useful for people who have lost contact with their own vital energy and organic roots to facilitate the restoration of this contact. The works of great artists can serve as a kind of consolation: Beethoven's chaotic noises, Van Gogh's outbursts of anger, Nietzsche's outpouring of feelings. The spectrum of colors and the repertoire of sounds contain healing possibilities.

Thus, the therapeutic possibilities of using both in and out of session paint for painting, clay for modeling personality states, drums for tapping feelings on them, blank paper for pouring out the words of a tortured soul should not be underestimated.

Historical resources: recovering repressed memories of positive experiences.

There is a lot of discussion going on about recalled and false memories. It deals mainly with negative memories. Almost no mention is made of the fact that positive memories can be repressed and then restored. Positive memories may exist prior to the traumatic experience that has come to erase them from memory. The negative images of the father implanted by the mother may have vague positive touches that could not be integrated into the family drama. The woman, abandoned by her father at the age of one, regained memories of the grounding feeling she received from his hands supporting her back.

This type of resources is similar to the resources of relationships, but in this case everything is much broader, it can be any memories that give strength, the desire to live. And these memories can be reinforced and reproduced through psychodramatic action. For this work, diaries, photographs of the client can be used ... Everything that can store the memory of resource events.

Figurative resources:

Images can arise when a person relies on his fantasies, feelings and, of course, the body ... These pictures and metaphors can serve as support and protection, support and consolation. They can contain the essence of what our clients need.

By playing these images in the space of psychodramatic reality, clients join the resources that these metaphors carry.

I think other types of resources can be identified as well. It seems to me important to be able to structure and continue this classification, adding new resources and new ways of finding and developing them.

An example from individual practice

Client N., 29 years old, came to therapy with complaints of bouts of overeating. Eating behavior like Bulimia, bouts of uncontrolled eating are accompanied by cleansing (vomiting) and further rigid diet.

At the time of treatment, he has no relationship with men, higher education, works in the field of arts. Lives alone.

One of the sessions where N. comes in a very depressed state, complaining about feeling unwell, longing, sadness about the fact that there is no other pleasure in life except her "secret feasts" ... Our meetings do not help her, everything is in vain. There is no family, no man, no interests, no desires ... nothing.

I immediately remembered a famous episode from the adventures of Alisa Selezneva and realized that we will work on resources. Here is this excerpt:

"Planet Shelezyak. Discovered by the Fiksian expedition. Inhabited by

metal culture of a very low level. There is an assumption that

the inhabitants of the planet are the descendants of robots who escaped from an unknown space

ship. They are distinguished by their straightforwardness and hospitality. However, they are very moody and

touchy. There are no minerals on the planet. There is no water either. There is no atmosphere.

There is nothing on the planet. If there was anything, the robots have spent everything and live in

poverty "

My choice was to invite her to talk about desires and interests. I offered her a job with stones and others natural materials(the choice is not accidental, this toolkit itself has a resource effect, since, as a rule, it is an Environmental Resource).

After she chose one of the stones for her role, she was asked to choose objects for the role of her desires, interests and hobbies ... In the beginning, there were difficulties ... it was proposed to choose, without assigning values, to postpone what she liked touch, by color, by weight (here I attracted her analytic systems to the asset, thereby expanding the area of ​​perception, attracting her sensations and visual perception, thus, I suggested remembering something else besides mental "gum").

She put aside a lot of objects, which we later named. As a result, she got a slightly different picture of her inner world. Instead of a flat and depressing picture of "Me and Food", there turned out to be a huge accumulation of completely different objects (both in appearance and in meaning).

What resources did she receive as a result of this work?

1. Environmental resources ... She remembered the sea and that she hadn’t been there for a long time, but wanted to!
2. Historical resources. Memories of travel, hobbies, joyful events in life.
3. Bodily resources. As a result of touching the stones, stroking them, pleasant sensations arose in the body.
4. Personal resources. Among the selected objects were those that were N.'s resource roles, for example, I am reading, I am admiring works of art ...

Comparing the feelings after the work done with those that were at the beginning of the session, it became obvious to N. that she has the strength to cope with her misfortune, with eating behavior, with loneliness. The temptation to devalue herself and her work in therapy was gone, especially when she looked at this mosaic, alive and mysterious. Her atom of desires, interests and needs was very similar to a small treasure. The greatest achievement of this session was her experience of being reverent and caring for herself, as opposed to the usual mechanical use.

I would like to add that in the process of working with this client, I knew about her injuries: the brutal rape in adolescence, the suffocating mother who raised her without a father, but my choice was to work to strengthen resources and vitality ... until the moment when she won't be ready to move on.

Literature:

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© Maria Vladimirova, 2005

1) survival,

2) physical comfort,

3) safety,

4) involvement in society,

5) respect from society,

6) self-realization in society.

Resources are divided into social and personal, in other words - external and internal.

External resources- these are material values, social statuses (roles) and social connections that provide support for society, help a person outside.

Internal resources- this is the mental personality potential, character and skills of a person that help from the inside.

However, the division into external and internal resources is rather arbitrary. Both resources are closely related, and with the loss of external resources, the loss of internal resources gradually occurs. Reliable external resources ensure the safety of internal resources, but only if these internal resources already exist.

Sometimes a person receives external resources without yet having internal ones, and this is just like an external decoration, which can crumble at any moment.

This is the tragedy, for example, of some children from very wealthy families who, having not yet developed their own personality, received many social supports in advance.

In this case, falling into the trap of morbid addiction, apathy or depression is much more likely than in the case of a young man who does not have sufficient social resources, I have to earn them myself and in the process automatically forms internal resources, since the latter is like the muscles of a personality that grow as a result of stress.

However, if such young man there were absolutely no external resources, he did not receive any initial support from society, it is very doubtful that he will be able to survive. That is, a minimum of initial external resources is required.

The more internal resources already acquired, the higher a person's ability to restore external resources in case of loss, the greater his resistance to the environment, the stronger his subjectivity, will, ego integration, locus of control, self-awareness and self-efficacy, stress resistance while maintaining the integrity of the personality.

It is important to understand that the strongest internal resources do not replace external ones, but they allow for some time to exist without external resources, to restore them from scratch, build up in any situation and provide over-adaptation, resisting the environment alone.

This is exactly what the hero of fantastic action movies looks like: he goes through any of the most terrible trials and emerges victorious. This metaphor is very accurate. Powerful inner resources are really like a motor instead of a heart, unbending will, charisma and a large supply of energy.

However, one must very well understand that any internal resources - like a supply of oxygen in the lungs, like a supply of glycogen in the liver - are provided autonomously only for a while, until a person has found new sources of nutrition - external resources.

A person cannot exist on some internal resources for a long time, he must find a suitable environment and enter into an interchange with it, provide with its help all his needs, from the lowest to the highest, otherwise, after some time, the inner potential will be exhausted.

That is why, ideally, a person should constantly take care of maintaining and increasing those and other resources, and the stronger his internal resources, the easier it is to increase external ones. And the more he himself built up external resources, the stronger he became inside.

Internal resources are a reserve of autonomy... This is how good, confident and whole a person can feel without any support from society and even with its opposition, without resorting to defensive illusions and denial, that is, clearly realizing the real state of affairs, but withstanding stress and preserving himself.

A person cannot and should not be infinitely autonomous, a person is a social being and the essence of his life is in interaction with society, in exchange with others, in participation in the life of people. However, a person needs a reserve of autonomy in order to preserve himself during conflicts, to protect himself from encroachments, to assert his subjectivity, his will, his self and his I, not to become a weak-willed object in the wrong hands, an inanimate resource, a slave and a thing of all who are stronger. , not to become what we in this LJ call the word "feed".

Any person can be turned into food under certain circumstances, but the higher the reserve of his autonomy, the stronger his subjectivity, that is, the integrated part of his personality, the so-called core of the personality, the core of the personality, "hardy", authenticity, selfhood, the more difficult it is to destroy it, the greater his resistance and strength.

A person with a very strong core can be conditionally considered invincible, since it will take too much effort to subdue his will. Much easier to kill his body than personality. Such an ideal is worth striving for.

Anyway, it is worth moving as far as possible from the situation of personal weakness, lack of will, dependence and disintegration... In a weak state, a person cannot find internal supports in himself, is not able to rely on himself, she has no autonomy, she is not able to do without the support of loved ones and for the sake of this support she is ready to abandon herself, she suffers from loneliness and seeks to escape from that emptiness, which he discovers in himself every time when a problem has arisen or anxiety has simply appeared.

To understand the problem of resources, one must be aware of how dynamic it is, how much it is in motion. You cannot accumulate resources once and gain strength forever.... Resources require constant interaction with the environment, constant development and updating. Giving external resources and not acquiring others in return, a person weakens his external positions, which cannot but affect his autonomy, no matter how strong he once was.

A person is constantly changing, “living” - that is, he is in motion and change. And if its internal and external resources do not develop, they degrade. Nothing living can freeze in place. When I am asked the question “Why Strong woman turned into a weak relationship in a relationship, because she had the resources ", I want to answer rudely, but honestly," they were, but they swam. "

Resources can remain only as long as a person is engaged in these resources. As soon as he goes headlong into something else, for example, in a relationship, his resources either go to the one to whom he devotes himself, or simply gradually fall apart and disappear.

The main thing is that the connection between the integrated parts of the ego is broken, if this connection was, that is, the person was really strong, and did not seem. This connection is broken if a person ceases to develop his subjectivity, his autonomy, his ego-integration, and begins to do something exactly the opposite: to relax, passively surrender to something, get involved in something that is not he, run away from yourself into ecstatic experiences, in the hope of transcendence, or just a thrill.

Any positive transcendence requires the return of the center, the assemblage point, inside oneself with some prey, self-enrichment, and not the loss of oneself. Transcendence without returning to oneself (and love often becomes this way) is like investing all your money in some business that will not bring income. It is a dissolution of oneself, a sacrifice.

The misunderstanding of autonomy and independence is just as harmful. Trying to preserve the "boundaries", some people begin to treat the world around them with hostility and wary, do not enter into connections, stop the flow of investments, which, in order to self-development, must be carried out continuously, otherwise development will stop.

It must be understood that there are no sources of energy inside the personality, except for that small potential that the person managed to accumulate and which will soon end. All energy sources are outside, in the outside world, in society and nature(if you perceive it personified, that is, also socially).

You can interact not with specific individuals, but with a cultural social stratum, reading books and comprehending art, you can lead a rather closed lifestyle, engaging in creativity directed to descendants, but this is also a social interaction, and sometimes very intense, more intense than superficial hangouts , but outside of society there are no sources of energy. By treating the outside world with hostility or without interest, a person very quickly depletes himself.

Love, passion, delight, curiosity, inspiration, admiration, amazement, interest, sympathy, attraction, craving, search, aspiration, desire, thirst are all ways to connect to new sources of energy.

Without attraction to something, there will be no connection, the person will remain in his own capsule, will suffocate, weaken, switch to a mode of more and more economy, as a result of which the world through the glass of a fogged capsule will seem more and more gloomy and hostile , or just plain ugly and boring.

Thus, depression can take over a person and destroy him completely, causing him to desire to die. Or he will not completely close, he will sometimes crawl out of the capsule and feed himself a little with something that is insufficient, however, in order to become stronger, bolder and decide on more active investments.

But love, passion and delight alone are not enough to enrich yourself with energy. This is enough to connect, but it may not be enough for you to share your energy and get something in return. For mutual exchange, a system is needed that balances the centripetal force of energy supply to the source, so that the energy from the source flows to the center (centrifugal force).

This system is intrapersonal integration, those very internal resources. The stronger the personality center, the stronger the centripetal force with increasing centrifugal.

From the point of view of most researchers, ego integration includes an adequate and stable self-esteem (not overestimated, not underestimated, not jumping), a locus of control, that is, a sense of one's personal responsibility and the power to influence the circumstances of one's life (without magical illusions, adequate), and trust in life, that is, the willingness to accept its events as lessons for improvement, to feel the love of life for oneself (the very core that is believed to be based on unconditional love parents, but in fact it can be formed at any age and also lost, the very core that faith in God gives to some, and even to some it does not, and some acquire it even without faith in God).

The triad - "self-esteem, locus of control, trust (or challenge)" - is not formed by itself, but only in the process of acquiring external resources, in the process of social interaction, work, creativity, education, gaining respect and love of people.

To receive something from the world, you need to give a lot to it, but giving in itself does not guarantee receiving. Without giving, you will not receive anything, but by giving there is no guarantee to receive, there can be no simple dogmas and instructions in this matter, you need to be generous and careful at the same time (this is possible with simultaneous love of the world and love of yourself), and without these two qualities it is impossible ... Those who call for the abandonment of sympathy and trust in the world can do a very disservice to those who believe them.

Love for the world and openness to the world is the only opportunity for acquiring resources: internal and external, and there are no other ways.

The system of filters and fuses can be created individually, taking into account the experience and personality traits, be more rigid or less, but it is very important "not to throw out the child with water", not to play it safe until all life support channels are completely turned off, and not to block any access to vital forces.

Each person possesses vital resources that he can dispose of and provide for certain processes. Thanks to personal resources, the needs for survival, safety, comfort, socialization and self-realization are met. In other words, we can say that a person's external and internal resources are his life support.

Characteristics of personal resources

Resources are divided into personal (internal) and social (external).

Internal resources are a person's mental and personal potential, as well as skills and character that support people from the inside.

External resources are those values ​​that are expressed in social status, connections, material support and everything else that helps a person in the outside world and society.

This article will talk about how important internal resources are and how they should be developed and used to achieve success.

The internal resources of a person include:

Health (physical and psychological);

Character;

Intellectual ability;

Skills, abilities, experience;

And emotions;

Self-assessment and identification;

Self-control;

Spirituality.

To achieve success and harmony with the world, it is these inner human resources that must be developed to the maximum level. Many specialists in the field of social psychology note that people who are engaged in self-improvement, in most cases, achieve their goals. They have the ability to control themselves first of all, and only then take control of the situations surrounding them. It is this behavior algorithm that is correct for influencing various social processes.

Health (physical and psychological)

A healthy human body, which is the required amount receives rest and food, and also in the required amount spends his inner sexuality and energy - these are the inner resources of a person, on which most of the success in life depends.

The psychological component (processes of the psyche and its functions) are also regarded as fundamental resources. The internal components of the personality psyche are erudition and erudition, figurative and abstract thinking, intelligence, the ability to use information, the ability to analyze and synthesize, attention, quick switching from one object to another, will and imagination.

Emotions and positive thinking

Various emotional states are inexhaustible resources. Internal moods can set a rhythm for both the physical body and the psyche as a whole. At the same time, the resources are both the feeling of favorable emotions, such as joy, happiness, fun, serenity, and the feeling of grief, sadness, anger, rage. But each of the emotions must carry a creative function. For example, rage and anger in defending your rights can indicate and will not allow your opponent to violate them. But rage, aimed at the destruction (moral or psychological) of another person, already carries a destructive function.

The perspective on creation will allow you to develop the ability to positive thinking that very often becomes an assistant in solving many problems and troubles in life.

Character

Character is understood not only those traits that are highly moral and attractive to society as a whole, but also those that help a person to move towards achieving any results. For example, in society, anger and irritability are not very welcome, but thanks to them, a person will always be able to stand up for himself in a difficult situation. That is why such traits are also resources. The internal resources of the personality, which are in character, of course, must be close to the ideals of society. It is worth remembering that all character traits should be manifested in the right time and in the right place, in this case, they will only benefit the person himself and those around him.

Skills, abilities, experience

A skill is what a person has learned to do, and a skill is the automation of a skill. Thanks to this, the person can be with the people around him. Thus, the inner resource is manifested, which is skill.

The experience, reworked and relived, is important resource person. Everything that a person could realize and feel is already an experience and in the future a person can consciously use it in similar situations to overcome any difficulties.

Self-assessment and identification

Identity is what we identify and identify with. The last characteristic can be professional, social-role, gender. It is also an internal resource that allows us to fulfill the functions and responsibilities that we consciously assume. Self-esteem plays important role in a person's life and correct use of this resource. We can say that it is a real assessment of one's position in society and attitude towards oneself that allows one to weigh one's own actions and failures, draw conclusions and continue to achieve the set life goals.

Self-control

The ability to respond correctly to current situations is an extremely important component of any personality. Using the resource of self-control allows a person to analyze and correctly choose a model of behavior that will not harm others or himself.

Spirituality

Spirituality in the field of internal resources is understood not only as belief in higher power, but also values ​​that are associated with justice, love, faith in magic and energy. It is these intangible values ​​that lift a person above earthly chaos, and allow him to become more rational.